Victimhood: The Refusal of Sovereignty

The perfect alibi

Responsibility is heavy. It requires you to own every outcome in your life, including the failures.

Victimhood is the rejection of that weight. It is the belief that your life is happening to you, caused by forces outside your control. The economy, your parents, your spouse, the government.

This is the perfect alibi. If it is not your fault, you do not have to fix it. You are absolved of the burden of action.

The addiction to pity

The victim trades power for sympathy.

When you complain, when you tell the story of how hard you have it, you receive a temporary hit of validation. People nod. They comfort you. You feel seen.

This is a cheap substitute for the self respect that comes from solving your own problems. It keeps you small, dependent on the emotional charity of others.

The trap of justification

The mind collects evidence to build the case for your victimhood. It ignores your choices and highlights your misfortunes.

You build a fortress of justification. You can explain exactly why you cannot succeed. You are right, but you are trapped. You have won the argument and lost your freedom.

The surrender

To leave victimhood, you must surrender the right to blame. You must admit that you are the common denominator in all your problems.

This is painful. It burns the ego. But it is the only door that leads to authority.

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