The end of the victimhood

The Line in the Sand

There is a single line that divides the child from the adult. That line is responsibility.

On one side is the Victim. The Victim believes life happens to them. They are subject to the whims of the economy, their parents, their spouse, and their luck. They are innocent, but they are powerless.

On the other side is the Author. The Author accepts that life happens by them. They recognize that their reality is a direct printout of their choices, their unconscious beliefs, and their state of being.

Radical Ownership

Total responsibility is not about fairness. It is about power.

If you blame your parents for your anxiety, you have handed them the keys to your mental health. You cannot fix what you did not cause.

When you accept that you are generating the anxiety, through your interpretation of the past, you reclaim the keys. You become the cause, not the effect.

The End of Complaint

A sovereign adult does not complain. Complaint is a confession that you are unwilling to change your situation.

If you are broke, it is because you have not created value.

If you are lonely, it is because you have not connected.

If you are mistreated, it is because you have tolerated it.

This is a brutal realization. It strips away the comfort of the alibi. But it leaves you with something far more valuable: the undeniable knowledge that you can change anything you are willing to own.

The Interrogation

Look at the area of your life where you feel most stuck. The dead relationship. The stagnant bank account. The recurring conflict.

Stop asking "Why is this happening to me?" That is a child asking for an explanation.

Ask the question that cuts the throat of the victim:

"What is the hidden benefit I get from keeping this problem alive?"

Do you get to feel righteous?

Do you get to avoid the risk of leaving?

Do you get to extract pity?

You are not stuck because the problem is unsolvable. You are stuck because the solution costs more than you are willing to pay. The moment you admit this, the victim dies, and the adult is born.

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